My troubled teen, a ruler in the house
03/23/09
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Being the father in the house (not the man of the house), I never had any kind of superiority feeling neither I ever tried controlling anyone. I never had to felt that this was needed in the house. Angelina and I had given birth to Twins girls and after Two years we go Erik. Erik was very much attached to us. He was a little insecure about himself. I had no self-confidence. But this never seemed to bother anybody.
As Erik grew up, he took the habit of fighting with me. I used to feel that it was his lack of confidence that he was hiding behind his anger. All theses fights were not that violent and that is why we never took them seriously. Around his seventeen, he had become quite a strong man. He had a nice and strong built. And I was also becoming old.
Erik started being very abusive. He used to blame for each and everything. I made me feel bad about what I am and I feel that I should have been a strict and I should have used my authority. One day, Erik started fighting with me because our internet connection was not working and he had to submit some project next day in school. I could not understand how it was supposed to be my mistake. He got up came near me and insulted me. I was petrified and wordless. I felt that all these years of hard work had fallen deep in the see.
His mother slapped him and pushed him in his room. From this day, we had become strangers for each other and in had become difficult for us to live in the same house. Weeks passed by, but he did not come to apologize.
After a month, his mom decided to speak to him. The talk turned into a big fight and he had hit her. I was not home but the minute I got back, Erik knew that things will never be the same again. I packed his stuff and drove him to the nearest troubled teen school. It was difficult for the entire family but we had no other choice. He had really turned into a troubled teen and a troubled teen school would not have hurt in any case.
Since few days before this incident, I had already started looking for a troubled teen school and that is why, I did have any doubt about what I am doing. Erik stayed there for a year. He also felt that he had turned into a troubled teen and this help was a need.
